December 16, 2019

One of the most contentious and damaging issues with married couples in parenting can be the idea of “you’re supposed to have my back.”  This gets dicey because once the stone has been cast both partners can claim that the other “doesn’t have their back.”  It becomes a...

Whether it is a conversation that is difficult to have because it may frighten or sadden your child, or it is difficult because it is going to create conflict, parents are often faced with the conundrum of when, where, and how to have difficult discussions.  If you fin...

January 21, 2019

Realizing you don’t know how to help or parent your teenage child is not only humbling but often devastating.  Whether it is because your child is depressed, anxious, failing school, using drugs, or all of the above, not being able to help your child can affect marriag...

January 7, 2019

Often parents will put all their parenting energy into trying to set boundaries, create punishments, implement scare tactics, and prodding with rewards.   For parents with difficult teens, these interventions don't work no matter how often and how many times a parent a...

September 17, 2018

I was in session with a mother and her son.  The son had inherited some money but was not old enough yet to make decisions regarding how the money could be spent.  The mother allowed the son to have a very small portion of the money and she put the rest away for the fu...

July 2, 2018

While it is important to maintain your boundaries and to protect yourself when you are having conflict with your teen, it is more important to keep perspective.  What I mean by keep perspective is remember the parent you want to be in spite of their insane behavior, do...