All great parents have an instinct to capitalize on all “parenting moments.” These are the moments you feel the need to teach, lecture, nag, punish, or reward your child for their mistakes and successes. At times, the lessons and guidance are truly dire, like making sure they never again put themselves in a life-threatening situation. At other times, your lessons are somewhat frivolous like trying to insist that they change their style. Unfortunately, parents get in the ha

As I have mentioned before boundaries are often seen as a way to change your teen, usually through punishment and reward. Theoretically this makes sense and we have been conditioned to think that this is the only way to parent. I have also mentioned before that a truly healthy boundary is not about changing someone. A healthy boundary is one that is concrete, protective of yourself, your home, your morals, or your values. A healthy boundary is one that you control. This