Setting healthy boundaries is crucial to a healthy parenting relationship. Too many parents think that boundaries are reward and punishment. We all revert to reward and punishment at times knowing that in the long run it doesn’t work. Healthy boundaries are protective. The spirit of a healthy boundary is not to change someone else, but to protect your body, your belongings, your homes, your values, your emotions, and your morals. Healthy boundaries are concrete, protective, relevant, and you control the follow through. When you have healthy boundaries you are not so concerned with whether or not your child is suffering too much or too little from possible consequences. In the long run you become more influential and more able to stay away from lecturing, yelling, and having insane conversations.